Sunday, 5 July 2009

A few thoughts...

I'm typing this entry on my NEW laptop. Its a sexy red thang! Perfecto for blogging ;)

Let's see.... something I've just happened to notice recently is that, well... long term relationship break ups majorly suck. OK, so maybe I already knew this, but luckily I've managed to go through most of my life so far happy at not having to deal with it.
That's not to say its a bad thing - because when I really think about it, it's actually a good thing. Greener pastures await.

Like death, it is simply a part of life, and I have come to accept that. As when someone close to you dies (which, funnily enough, is also true for me recently), you have to go through a grieving process. This is necessary, but its also really annoying and takes waaaay longer than you want it to.

In case you were wondering, here's the stages of the grieving process...
  1. Shock
  2. Denial
  3. Guilt
  4. Anger
  5. Depression
  6. Acceptance
You don't necessarily go through all these stages in the specified order, in fact most people flitter between multiple stages for a while. However to properly get on with life you do need to get to stage 6 (Acceptance), at some point.

Recently, when I've been reflecting and talking to people - I've noticed a lot of my thought patterns are now aligned to stage 6, and that's a very good thing.

You can't really speed up this grieving process (as much as I really wanted to). You do have to go through it properly - otherwise you're really just kidding yourself, and it will take longer to come out the other end in the long run.

Effective communication is pretty much impossible, but that doesn't stop people from trying - more likely doing more harm than good.

A good bunch of friends and family (I consider family as friends too by the way) is one of the best supplements in all of this. Thanks to all my friends out there, for well... being my friends :)
One of these friends pointed out to me recently that no matter how bad things get, I'm generally able to have a bit of a laugh. And overall, that's a good thing! Unfortunately, it has also managed to get me into trouble on occasions, but I shouldn't have to apologise for well... being me.

Sometimes life appears to come full circle... Tomorrow, I move back to the old office from 2 years ago! The irony of this situation is not lost on me.
And on a lighter note, for those of you who know me, my favourite song of all time is just oh so relevant right now :)

Also, cool photos next time. Promise!

But I will leave you with this: My awesome stack of chips at a recent Poker night. Unfortunately this is as big as it got, and I spent the next 3 hours dying a slow and painful death.... hmmm.



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